Nov 29, 2013

Christmas Presense

Hope you had a great Thanksgiving yesterday.  Since Christmas is now right around the corner, lets talk gifts.  Every year I have high aspirations of getting everyone on my list the "perfect" present.  Something they need or want.  Something that will be meaningful to them.  You know what I'm talking about.  Ok, want to know a secret?  Sometimes people are hard to shop for.  They already have everything, or what they want is not within your budget.  What do you give them?  Another tie?  a book?  more scented lotion? 

Our friends, the Carman's, do something every Christmas that I think is perfect for this type of situation.  Each year everyone in the family takes the money they would have spent buying Christmas presents, and they use it to serve others.  For example, one year they secretly bought Christmas for a family who couldn't afford it.  Another year they bought and donated a bunch of sporting equipment to a local charity.  This year, they assembled dozens of Christmas care packages and sent them off to missionaries serving in the field.  
Each year, on Christmas, the family gathers together and instead of opening gifts, they go around and each family tells (with excitement and sometimes tears) the gift of service they gave that Christmas season.  They say the feelings they get from giving these service gifts is far better than any material gift they could ever receive.
Here's a similar idea.  Have you ever heard of the white envelope project?  It is an organization that was inspired by a true story published in a magazine back in the 80's.   Here's the story:

“For the Man Who Hated Christmas”
by Nancy W. Gavin

It’s just a small, white envelope stuck among the branches of our Christmas tree. No name, no identification, no inscription. It has peeked through the branches of our tree for the past ten years or so.
It all began because my husband Mike hated Christmas--oh, not the true meaning of Christmas, but the
commercial aspects of it--overspending... the frantic running around at the last minute to get a tie for Uncle
Harry and the dusting powder for Grandma---the gifts given in desperation because you couldn't think of
anything else.

Knowing he felt this way, I decided one year to bypass the usual shirts, sweaters, ties and so forth. I reached for something special just for Mike. The inspiration came in an unusual way. Our son Kevin, who was 12 that year, was wrestling at the junior level at the school he attended; and shortly before Christmas, there was a non-league match against a team sponsored by an inner-city church. These youngsters, dressed in sneakers so ragged that shoestrings seemed to be the only thing holding them together, presented a sharp contrast to our boys in their spiffy blue and gold uniforms and sparkling new wrestling shoes. As the match began, I was alarmed to see that the other team was wrestling without headgear, a kind of light helmet designed to protect a wrestler’s ears. It was a luxury the ragtag team obviously could not afford. Well, we ended up walloping them. We took every weight class. And as each of their boys got up from the mat, he swaggered around in his tatters with false bravado, a kind of street pride that couldn't acknowledge defeat. Mike, seated beside me, shook his head sadly, “I wish just one of them could have won,” he said. “They have a lot of potential, but losing like this could take the heart right out of them.”

Mike loved kids - all kids - and he knew them, having coached little league football, baseball and lacrosse. That’s when the idea for his present came. That afternoon, I went to a local sporting goods store and bought an assortment of wrestling headgear and shoes and sent them anonymously to the inner-city church. On Christmas Eve, I placed the envelope on the tree, the note inside telling Mike what I had done and that this was his gift from me.

 His smile was the brightest thing about Christmas that year and in succeeding years. For each Christmas, I followed the tradition--one year sending a group of mentally handicapped youngsters to a hockey game, another year a check to a pair of elderly brothers whose home had burned to the ground the week before Christmas, and on and on. The envelope became the highlight of our Christmas. It was always the last thing opened on Christmas morning and our children, ignoring their new toys, would stand with wide-eyed anticipation as their dad lifted the envelope from the tree to reveal its contents. As the children grew, the toys gave way to more practical presents, but the envelope never lost its allure.

The story doesn't end there. You see, we lost Mike last year due to dreaded cancer. When Christmas rolled around, I was still so wrapped in grief that I barely got the tree up. But Christmas Eve found me placing an envelope on the tree, and in the morning, it was joined by three more. Each of our children, unbeknownst to the others, had placed an envelope on the tree for their dad. The tradition has grown and someday will expand even further with our grandchildren standing to take down the envelope. Mike’s spirit, like the Christmas spirit will always be with us.

Today as you begin your holiday shopping please remember it's not the Presents but the Presence (Christ's) that really counts.